tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6330049216964999819.post2206913299526585102..comments2023-05-26T05:22:30.143-07:00Comments on It's our life: Revenge Hanna StyleCyndihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03707402484656540757noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6330049216964999819.post-85724906163334024442010-09-21T05:59:54.510-07:002010-09-21T05:59:54.510-07:00I hope so, too. Prayers and Hugs.I hope so, too. Prayers and Hugs.GB's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08866513131959998883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6330049216964999819.post-66499922136925278332010-09-21T05:55:19.809-07:002010-09-21T05:55:19.809-07:00when I hit mental road blocks like this with AB an...when I hit mental road blocks like this with AB and Sissy, I usually have to teach them the thought/phrase. If this was Sissy (who thinks EVERYONE ON THE PLANET lives to tattle on her) i would say:<br /><br />"No. Sissy. This is the truth. Say it after me. <i>I made a mess in the bathroom. I am mad at myself. I don't want to get in trouble.</i>"<br /><br />then I'd make her repeat it so she says it a total of 3 times outloud. The first time she usually gets mad but I just repeat the phrase which starts with, "No."<br /><br />It takes practice. I have to have an emotionless face, tone and body language. She has to know it is safe to say these phrases, that she won't face a consequence. (my rule is school behaviors get school consequences with the exception of failing grades).<br /><br />It helps. Because Katherine leslie says it in the first chapter of one of her books, that our RADlings don't know how to act, what to say, etc. It empowers them to put the words in their heads and in their mouths.<br /><br />Usually, when I am able to successfully get through these with Sissy or AB, they give some indication that I've hit the nail on the head for them emotionally and they walk free from the anxiety of it. Sometimes I might even get a hug or a smile! <br /><br />FYI - this is successful 75% of the time. Well worth the 25% failure rate (which usually means a rage)Integrity Singerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09196095126605205738noreply@blogger.com