tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6330049216964999819.post5698981520812698509..comments2023-05-26T05:22:30.143-07:00Comments on It's our life: The Best Thing Since Sliced BreadCyndihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03707402484656540757noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6330049216964999819.post-64119321543441295642010-01-21T10:51:06.035-08:002010-01-21T10:51:06.035-08:00I read somewhere that in part their acting out at ...I read somewhere that in part their acting out at home the most - because that is where they are most at risk for caring for others, letting people into their hearts is life-threatening to some of these kids. With attachment disorders it is the primary caretakers that are the most threatening to their overall need for control, the button pushing etc... in attempts to make sure we are strong enough to keep them safe, not just from the world but from themselves as well. They don't always know they are doing it or necessarily why, it is a deeply buried emotion. Although our kids have their moments at school where they act like they do at home - it is typically either with new people or people they know are keeping their eyes on them. This sounds all so very insane, but it does make sense in a wired different sort of way. Can't be logical with illogical behaviors. For years the girls would simply tell us they do certain things "because their body told them to" subconsiously that's probably accurate. With middle school, behaviors got better because they constantly had to move. They couldn't get comfortable with one teacher in one classroom long enough to take over. They didn't have the same para's in each mainstream class. So there were lots of eyes watching them not just one person they could control. They manipulated small groups, but did better within the larger groups, opposite of most special education programming. The teachers/staff that could control their personal emotions did the best with the girls - the ones that are alittle "cold" to special kids. They simply weren't affected then by the girls button pushing. Parents are easy to push - we have emotional investment in them, and they know they will get some kind of reaction and attention at home. When I can be in the mood to let their behaviors slide off my back, they stop or at least slow down because I'm not playing the game. I'm working really hard but fail daily in this aspect, but when I do, it takes the wind right out of their sails.DynamicDuohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17873524872136172078noreply@blogger.com