Sunday, October 3, 2010

Retreat Weekend

It was a great weekend!! I got to spend some time away at a retreat for adoptive moms. I connected with some moms whom I had known for a long time and I met some new moms too. We stayed at a beautiful camp bursting with all the beauty of the fall colors. We talked and learned about some difficult issues that come with raising kids who have experienced trauma and we had some fun too.

I came away with the feeling that we are doing what is right for our family even though it may not be easy. The other thing that I heard, and I know that I had heard this before, but had forgotten is that the child`s trauma and issues are theirs and as a parent I can not own that trauma for them. They need to learn to deal with it in their own way at their own pace. Now that is all good, but I sure wish they could pick up the pace and move on to things that are more healthy and productive.

I came home to kids who were excited to see me, a reasonably orderly home, and dinner ready to be served. I don`t think I could ask for anything more then that.

4 comments:

  1. Glad you had a great weekend! In God's time...

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  2. that's good words - we can't on their trauma for them/they have to learn to deal with it on their own and at their own pace.

    good words. very good words! I might be making that a new mantra

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  3. I'm so jealous! I wanted to go to the retreat but family events took precedence. Someday I hope too that if I come home from a get a way, my daughters would be excited to see me.... maybe someday. So glad you and the other Moms got a break.

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