It is one of those days when I would just like to tell all those "I know how to deal with your kid" know it alls, to take a hike and leave us in peace. No, actually you have no idea how to deal with my kid, but I can not tell you to take that hike because you control the $$$$ that my kid will need for the rest of her life in order to keep her safe from herself and keep society safe from her.
She is who she is and that is okay with us. There is no therapy to fix her. The alcohol and trauma make her who she is. Maybe instead of trying to fix her you could just support the family that is out there working every day to give her structure, keeping her safe, caring about her even though she does not care about herself, along with all the other things a family provides. We love her just the way she is, but she needs to be supervised 24/7 and we do need to sleep and we do need to cook and clean and take care of our other kids and work and go to meetings and appointments and maybe once in a while we need to take a break from all of this because we are human after all and we get tired of all this. We especially get tired of people who HAVE NO IDEA what our kid is all about, yet they seem to have LOTS of advice.
Have you ever had one of those people say "she is so sweet. I could take her home and she would do so well. I know she is mature enough to take care of herself if only you would let her". AAUUURRRRGGGGGHHHH!!!
Blah, blah, blah,yadda, yadda, yadda, and on and on and on. That went in one ear and out the other. I have got to get dinner on the table.