Since when is therapy, a new diet, behavior modification, more vitamins, more stuff, more love, or for that matter more or better of anything going to fix a person who has FASD and an attachment disorder. It just is not going to happen. That person is ALWAYS going to have FASD and an attachment disorder.
Yes, there is a time and a place for therapies of many kinds. They can and are helpful, but they do not take away the disability and they are not going to be the fix all.
Yes, eating in a healthy manner and taking the proper vitamins is helpful, but that is not going fix it either.
Yes, behavior modification does work to curb some behaviors, but it is not working at all with the two mentioned above.
As far as having more stuff, that is just craziness for a kid who is so wrapped up in having the stuff to hide the attachment issues behind. Stuff gives that person something to hide behind so they can ignore the issues they need to be dealing with.
Love, well this one makes me scream, ARE YOU OUT OF YOUR MIND!! If this family did not love this kid, do you really think we would do everything we do for her and put up with all the crazy we put up every single day? We are not doing this just for fun here, ya know.
Yes, we do want and need help here, but every time we get a plan in place, figure it out and make it work for our family it gets thrown out the window and we have to start all over again. Why is it that when something is working we have to take it away? FASD and attachment issues need to be managed for ALL of a lifetime. It is not going to go away and there comes a time when things are at a point when you just have to say, stop all of this, we do not need any of this, we have very capable, well trained staff, we do not want any more therapists, skills workers, or any one else in our home,just leave things the way they are and we will manage just fine. Do not tell us what our kid needs or that we do not love her, because you have no idea what you are talking about. We have seven other kids who we seem to love just fine.
Yeah, I am just a bit stressed this morning because here we go again, round number to high to count in the arena of craziness raising this kid. I will get myself together shortly, I hope.